Friday 28 August 2020

Where does an ex wife sit at a funeral

Where to sit at a funeral? Does ex wife of deceased sit with family at the funeral? What to do about an ex wife?


Someone from the family may ask your children to join them, but don’t expect them to put aside their grief to make you feel welcome. Your Position at the Service At the funeral, remember that no matter how you feel about your former spouse, you are no longer a member of the family. Unless you have a particularly close relationship with your former in-laws – or you are accompanying children who need your presence – do not sit near the front.

If there is a viewing prior to the funeral service, visit with the family and pay your respects. Once this is done you can sit down. If there is not a viewing prior to the funeral service, you can sit down in a chair , aisle , or pew as soon as you arrive. Try to remain silent. If the ex-wife attends with the children she shared with the decease the children should sit in the pew or row with the deceased’s immediate family, while the ex-wife should sit directly behind them.


It is not appropriate for the ex-wife to sit in the row intended for immediate family unless she is specifically invited to do so. Remember that the most important issue regarding seating at a funeral or memorial service is that family members and close friends have a place to sit in the front and don’t have to argue or negotiate for a seat. At the same time, those sitting in the front should not be surrounded by empty seats.

And then make sure your ex spouse or someone your children are comfortable with will attend to their needs. Ok, I am having a hard time with this it has hapened twice already. My husbands Aunt and Grandmother died. His Grandmother most recently.


Well, at the funeral his Ex - wife insisted on sitting with the family. She made a huge scene about it actually. Should you attend an ex-spouse’s funeral?


And what’s the right thing to do, in terms of paying your last respects to a former in-law? Families can be complicated at the best of times , with big occasions raising all sorts of questions over the rights, wrongs and maybes. In actuality funerals are for the living. If your connection to your deceased ex-wife means that you have lost contact with people who you liked then it would be appropriate to attend. If however you had a really bad breakup then maybe it would be a mistake to attend.


If you have children then you should definitely attend. As an ex , you’re now a guest rather than a family member. Attending Funeral Services: Be respectful. Don’t chat with those around you or eat or drink anything.


If you do attend the funeral, sit in the back row and be pleasant to those you meet. Even if there are lingering negative feelings regarding your divorce or the family’s acceptance of it, your job is to pay your respects without putting yourself forward.

Offer support however you can. You should sit with your children, even if your ex’s husband is nearby, because hopefully you will be able to put your differences aside during this trying time to allow you to be there to support. When a former spouse or partner dies, many feelings can arise, especially if children are involved.


You may want to attend the funeral or memorial service but feel emotionally conflicte or you may want to attend the service but don’t know how your presence at the event would be received by other family members. I believe the immediate Family are singled out by the Funeral Home. They usually walk in order,.

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